Becoming a Mom Before Your Friends

I kind of did everything "early. "I was married at 22 and had my first baby at 25. When I got married,  no one was married.   I was a flirt growing up.  No one thought I would get married first.  Being the one that was "taken" was not what I was use to. It felt weird being the "married one". That did not compare to being the first one in my group to have a baby.  

Friends are there to support you.  You can vent to them,  laugh,  and cry.  I quickly realized that I could not vent to a lot of my friends cause they didn't really understand. They weren't cleaning poop diapers at 3am. They were getting home from a party at that time. 

Then, before most my friends even got married,  boom, I had 2 kids. Me being a "mom" is so normal in my every day life but sometimes I feel like I'm in a bubble. The friends I grew up with,  have a totally different bubble. 

At first, I still got invited to everyone's parties and events. The thing is, with a breastfeeding- pooping machine, it's hard to go out and party. Soon enough, I realized that I was no longer being invited anymore. I guess I said "maybe next time" so many times that people just said "forget it, she won't come anyways." They are probably right. I'm not going to lie though,  not getting the invite, sucks. 

With social media being such a huge part of our lives,  I feel like we all know each others business. I see everyone's pictures.  Birthdays, holidays, random get togethers are all on display. Seeing the friends you use to hang out with all out having fun (while you didn't even know something was happening) stings a little.  

Becoming a wife and mom before my friends was strange.  Not getting invited out hurts but it becomes the norm. One thing I did realize was that the friends that want to stick around, do. They will come over to your toy filled house and gossip while drinking coffee instead of wine. For those friends, I'm grateful. 

One day, they will all have babies.  My babies will be bigger and I'll say "Tag! It's your turn bitches. " 😜😂