You Are a Failure

You had a csection... you're a failure

You used an epidural...you're a failure

You bottle fed... you're a failure

You formula fed... you're a failure

You breastfeed in public...slutty failure

You don't fit into your old clothes.. you're a failure

You bed share... you're a failure

You put your baby in a room alone... you're a failure

You are a working mom... you dont love your kids...failure

You are a stay at home mom... you have no dreams or aspirations...failure

FAILURE

When I became a mom I realized that there is always someone that will see you as a failure.

This is our fault. We have such high expectations as moms that we end up setting ourselves up. We make up this idea of "perfection" and it comes to bite us in the ass!

We are all very different in our upbringings, our beliefs, our parenting styles, and so many other things. To compare ourselves to others is a sure way to lead to depression, anxiety, and all the yucky feelings no one likes moms to talk about.

Why didn't I bounce back as fast as her? Why is her house always clean? How does she do so many activities with the kids? She looks so happy with her husband.

By having all of these thoughts, we are denying our own happiness and not accepting our blessings. I use to compare myself and my life to others. I realized that I would end up mad. Mad at myself. Mad at them. Mad at the universe for giving them more.

Guess what I came to see? I had my own version of happiness. I didn't need to compare.

Look around! Not everyone sees you as a failure. Maybe the only one that thinks you are failing is YOU. See yourself as an inspiration. Don't lie. Show your mistakes. Share your bad days but also share your good days. It's ok to feel accomplished.

Being a mom, waking up in the morning, and showing up for your kids is already a win! It is ok to make a mistake but the important part is how you move past it. There are little eyes watching your every move. Show them how bad ass their mama is!